S1E29. Losing My COVID-20

“Decide how you want to die and eat accordingly.”

Those were my mother’s words to me when she was in her late 60s and living in Fort Lauderdale. It was the received wisdom of wealthy retirees who had a vested interest in living as long as possible.

At the time, my decision was to try to avoid dying from a heart attack as there is a history of heart disease in my family among the men on my father’s side, with an apparent expiration date of 60 years.  “Eating accordingly” translated into adopting a low fat, low cholesterol diet. For me, it was mostly a matter of reading labels and avoiding certain foods.

Nonetheless, it was quite a transition that I undertook in my 40s. It was a radical lifestyle change from my 20s and 30s when food was all about taste, variety and exploration. Pizza with extra cheese, sausage and pepperoni had been food for the gods. Now it was poison.  😦

In 1990, when I was 39, I wrote and self-published The Tyler Hill Bed & Breakfast Cookbook. I was aware at the time that it was probably the last full fat, high calorie cookbook that would ever be written. In the introduction, I wrote:

“I like things that look good and taste good, even if there’s enough cholesterol in them to clog every major artery into Manhattan. I don’t like — but understand and approve of — your need to substitute low fat, low cholesterol, low sodium ingredients if you must, even though it changes the taste. I think I’m middle of the road when it comes to cooking: I don’t insist on whole grains, but I’m not into junk food, either.”

I went on to rail against using artificial ingredients and products that contained unpronounceable chemicals. I ended my statement of cooking philosophy by comparing eating to having sex…and concluded that eating well was better!

Fast forward 31 years. Although I adjusted my cooking to be more heart-healthy, my weight yo-yoed in a predictable way. At 5’8″ tall, 155 pounds is a good weight for me. Each year, though, it creeps up to about 165 with most of that gain coming in the fall and winter when I tend to hibernate and stop exercising. Each March, I gather myself together, get back on my healthy diet, and start jogging again. By July, I’m back to 155 and feeling good.

That same pattern unfolded last year but there was a glitch: I was just beginning my descent from 166 when the COVID quarantine hit and the gym at the YMCA shut down. I wasn’t able to adjust my exercise routine and over the course of the next 12 months, I gained another 20 pounds: the infamous COVID-20 that hit a lot of us.

When this March rolled around, then, I was really worried about my weight which was at an all-time high of 186 pounds. I’d be out of breath after climbing the stairs and bending over to put on my socks was a challenge. It was time to get really serious about my diet and exercise…but there was a new wrinkle.

Not only was I dieting and exercising to avoid heart disease, but now I was concerned about maintaining brain health and warding off dementia, too. So I began reading up on brain healthy eating.

The good news is that all of the things that are heart healthy are also brain healthy. As a result, I didn’t have to eliminate a lot of things from my diet. It was disconcerting, though, to discover that some of the prior changes I thought were healthy decisions, like eating non-fat Greek yogurt, were on the brain food shit list: all milk products are out!

Whereas heart-healthy eating for me was mostly about avoiding certain foods, brain-healthy eating requires you to go beyond that and intentionally include a wide variety of foods in your diet. It gives a whole new meaning to the 60s mantra “Feed your head!”

I’m just at the beginning stages of exploring this new way of eating. The information in the reading I’m doing is pretty overwhelming, but I’m doing my best to simplify it: nuts, berries, wild-caught fish, shellfish, poultry, herbs, spices, beans, fruits, leafy greens and vegetables are good; beef, sugar, junk food, refined flours, milk products and anything that ever had a relationship with pesticides, antibiotics or hormones are poison. (Here’s a link to a video that provides a pretty good overview.)

So far, so good. I’ve been able to adhere to a good workout schedule, getting to the gym 5-6 days each week, I’m making the shift to more healthy foods and I’m having fun trying out new recipes. 

Bottom line: I’ve lost 15 pounds over the last 3 months with 16 more to go. When I get there, I will have 2 of the 5 pillars of a healthy brain lifestyle in place: diet and exercise. As always, maintaining my new habits through the year (and years!) ahead will be the greater challenge.



  1. ROBERT Thornton GEORGE says:

    I would have lost the bet that you had published a cookbook. I almost lost my job trying to get the food cupboard to publish a cookbook. I told my kids that my sell by date was 85 and they thought was remarkably young and then I pointed out that it was 7 years longer than any of the men on my father’s side had lived. I run 1,000 miles a year so I don’t have to give up a glass of wine with dinner.

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    1. For the record, I self-published, so I’m not sure you would have lost that bet. 1,000 miles/year? I salute you!


  2. Jim Kennedy says:

    You post wonderful articles. My wife has Alzheimers and your writings help me quite a bit. Thank you…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much, Jim. I know that yours is a labor of love and I’m glad I can be of some support to you.


  3. Great job, Wayne! Like you, I’ve also been on a journey to eliminate my COVID-10.
    As you know, I have had a healthy style of eating for many years. I was beyond rigid. When I think of the times at Tyler Hill Bed and Breakfast, you would make your sourdough pancakes, bacon, and eggs benedict for breakfast. I didn’t eat a morsel, but instead, made myself scrambled egg whites. Every time I think of that, I want to slap myself silly for denying myself your amazing culinary delights!
    As the years went by, my late 60’s, I decided denying myself goodies has got to stop. I continued eating healthy as a rule, but I allow myself exceptions to the rule.
    During the COVID quarantine, pizza, pasta, and eggs benedict became my friends. Fortunately, I was never a junk food eater, so that wasn’t my problem.
    I got back on my healthy track two months ago, and I’m happy to say my weight is back to where it should be.
    The good news… I never realized until this post, that my way of eating is also good for my brain. A good hamburger on the barbecue grill is my exception.
    Once again, thank you, Wayne for all of the enlightenment you give us each week!

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    1. Finding the right balance…therein lies the rub! Congratulations on finding yours!



    Just to add some color to this very practical advice, my mother is about to celebrate her 89th birthday. She is the mother of 10 children and has consumed a glass of milk every day of her life. She still smokes (although down to 4 a day from 1.5 packs). We kids were always fed fresh food including game my father hunted, while all sweets, junk food and snacks were severely restricted. Mom is a now diabetic (as were both her parents and siblings), and is nearly blid from macular degeneration but she is still sharp, sarcastic and devoted to watching Rachael Maddow every day. Mom never “exercised” as running a household of 12 people and subsequent home care of two terminally ill sons kept her lean and mean. Perhaps one’s attitude and engagement with the world at large are as important as diet and exersize. 🙂

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    1. Thanks for the color commentary and wonderful profile of your mother! Who would have guessed that having 10 children could protect you from developing dementia later in life? I can’t wait for the clinical trials to start! 😀


  5. Martin says:

    There has developed a significant body of literature over the past decade or so on the use of 40 Hz both visually and aurally to treat cognitive decline. You are likely aware of this. This area made news recently with the successful and dramatic elimination of amyloid plaques – in mice. The human clinical trials are still sketchy and early days. Great news if you are a mouse, although I’m beginning to suspect that there may be a human subpopulation that will respond. Google “40 Hz and alzheimers pubmed” to get to the science.

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    1. I want nothing more than for this to work, but at this point, I’m still a 40 Hz skeptic. For that matter, I’m still an amyloid skeptic, too, regarding whether or not they are causal. Color me hopefully, but skeptical!


  6. Richard Clay Piper says:

    After prostate cancer surgery a good friend gave me a book on brain plasticity. The advice boiled down to two basic practices to live a longer, healthier life: (1) exercise, and (2) learn something difficult. Since my wife is an exercise fanatic, she is my inspiration for hitting the gym and the tennis ball. And I picked up my classical guitar and have been practicing about an hour a day for nearly three years. Still not very good but there is some zen in the practice.

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    1. I recall being impressed when you told me you played classical guitar. Sounds like you’ve got at least 2 of the 5 protective factors working for you. Nice!


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